I happened across an article from the New York Times this week that talked about JOMO - the Joy of Missing Out. The premise is that by truly being present in the moment, there is so much more joy to be had in an experience than if it is filtered through our thoughts, worries and distractions.
Like many, I try to be a good parent and have countless videos on my phone of my kids and their extra curricular activities. But I also realize that the video of my daughter's dance recital didn't capture the true emotion of her dance and it didn't allow me to enjoy the look of appreciation and love that her grandparents had while watching her perform. I missed out on some good stuff because I was focused on the video screen. And I haven't even watched the video again. I haven't watched my wedding video let alone the countless videos of my son playing soccer game when he was 4. I do however remember the look on my son's face when he looked up in the stands at me after scoring his first hockey goal. I remember the smile on his face and felt so satisfied knowing he could see on my face how proud I was of him without having to look around the phone screen to see my expression.
And don't even get me started on people who can't eat until they've taken a photo of their meal. A chef laboured to provide you with a nourishing, delicious meal and you can't enjoy it when it's hot and fresh because you're busy posting a photo on Facebook??? It's nice when others can see what you're experiencing but can you fully describe the flavours and the feelings that eating gave you (they say this is why French women don't get fat - I say it's worth a try!)
Focus on what's in front of you and really enjoy the experience you've been given.
Here's the article if you'd like to read more:
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